The perfect angel & her soul mate

My brother wrote a brilliant piece expressing his emotions and someone who read it asked me if I believed in the so called "true love" or perfect love. I thought back and realized I knew people who lived by the "I will give my life for you" kinda love. The fancy romeo juilet style love. And then, on the same day, I receive a call from, Oh Lord forgive me for saying this, "the perfect angel", (lol - just kidding). Now our angel talks to me about soul mates and stuff. Yes she is a believer of soul mates. I remember her asking me once if I believed in soul mates too.

Now all these questions put together and someone very important to me having asked me what my concept of love, true love, etc was; got me thinking। I always told them I had my own concept. My friends expected that answer, because I have my own theories for a lot of things in life. However, in this case, I realized that I have a lot of beliefs - just that I never articulated them.

So here it is. Those who call Romeo & juilet perfect lovers or those who think filmy love is all perfect, etc. are not going to like my opinions. And, the soul mate / perfect mate believers won't be disappointed, but won't be very happy with my opinions either.

Perception is reality. It really is. Everyone's reality is different. What you perceive is what will become reality for you. However a lot of your perception, I believe is either based in part or full on a choice that you can make, or is a choice that you make. In one of the Hindi movies, Shaadi Se Pehle, I remember Akshay Khanna saying something to the effect that we want to be great lovers, not like romeo and juliet - that you fall in love and at the end go & die. We want to live a long happy life.

That was his perception of perfect love. Living a long and happy life. Someone else has a different perception, and hence a different reality. Some, I know cannot live without big gestures, and expect a filmy life. Fine, I hope that they do find someone like that. Im not saying that they are wrong. I am just saying that keep your choices such that your reality is well real. I know that is highly debatable and my ontology blog will tell you more about it. But in short, keep your reality to do more with tangible things and not base them off other people's imaginations (like for ex, film writer's imaginations).

Of course as I do strongly believe, if you don't make a choice, the choices make you. So you don't step up and make a choice of how you want things, then, well, things will flow into something that you really do not want to be. I have respect for people who know what they are waiting for, example a soul mate, an arranged marriage, both of those, or even a dream. But only those people who do it by a conscious choice. Not by landing up in that situation because they saw too many movies, or because too many of their friends got into relationships. I guess what I am trying to say is that I do not actually believe in "true" or "perfect" love. I don't exactly believe in soul mates either.

Not because there are many flavors of ice-cream out there (like, rocky road, pink cherry, creamy vanilla, etc).. and I wanna try them all.. or that I have options.. (LOL). But because, if my perception is defining my reality, and my reality is making me happy, and being a rational human, I have the option of making my own choices.. then I can choose to make my own choices and be happy, no matter what the situation. Your soul mate can be anyone. Can be a simple and sweet guy. Can be a rich, famous and strong person. May also be a small guy who became really big. Point is simple. Be simple and nice. Learning to adjust and compromise. And most importantly, learning to keep your mind open and broad will help you see different perceptions and hence give you the option to build a reality of your own and there by giving you YOUR true / perfect love / your soul mate. :)